Dustin Adams

By Dustin Adams



What is Emotional Fitness?

Emotional fitness is defined as the state wherein the mind is capable of staying away from negative thoughts and can focus on creative and constructive tasks. Being emotionally fit is the key to success in all aspects of life.

How do we train it?

There are plenty of exercises that can be done to become emotionally fit.  Here are some of my favorites:

1.  “Happiness Jar” – On January 1, 2016, I started a Happiness Jar.  I said to myself that I was going to give it a shot, thinking that it was unlikely that it would be something that I stuck with.  It is powerful!  It turns out that there are a lot of studies on the people that live a life of appreciation and gratitude are the happiest people.  So every night, you end the day by writing what happy things happened that day and drop it in the jar.  That’s it!  Some people might use a journal, which works too.  By ending your day thinking of the happy things that happened that day or the things that you appreciate or are grateful for, you train your brain not to focus, or get stuck on, the negatives.

2.  “10 Day Mental Challenge” – At the end of the book “Notes from a Friend” by Tony Robbins, there is a 10 Day Mental Challenge.  The challenge is 10 days of refusal to dwell on anything negative. When you catch yourself beginning to focus on the negative, immediately snap yourself out of it and change your thinking or state. You can do this by asking an empowering question, such as “What’s great about this?” or “What else could this mean?”.  You can also do this by remembering what you are grateful or thankful for.  What can you appreciate about it?  In addition, you can set yourself up for success each morning for the next 10 days by developing a morning ritual to get yourself in a peak emotional state each day.  For the next 10 consecutive days, make certain that your whole focus in life is on solutions and not problems. The minute you see a possible challenge, immediately focus on what the solution could be.  If you backslide – that is, if you catch yourself indulging in or dwelling on an unresourceful thought or feeling – don’t beat yourself up. There’s no problem with this as long as you change immediately. However, if you continue to dwell on unresourceful thoughts or feelings for more than 5 minutes, you must wait until the following morning to start the 10 days over. The goal of this program is 10 consecutive days without holding or dwelling on a negative thought or state. This starting-over process is there for you to train your brain! Try it, it works!

3.  Always remembering that there are no failures. This is the best exercise for me!  There are only growing and or learning experiences.  Training my brain to remember that there is no failure has saved me from one of my biggest fears, which is not being good enough.  We all fear this whether we realize it or not.  Simply seeing everything as an opportunity to live, learn, and grow will save you from ever feeling failure or feeling inadequate.

4.  Read about it and/or listen to podcasts.  I suggest Google searches like “Emotional fitness”, “Living a life of gratitude”, “What makes people happy”, or “The art of fulfillment” to further explore